I have found out that there ain’t no surer way to find out whether you like people or hate them than to travel with them. – Mark Twain.
Hailed as the make or break test for couples, “Withstood the Test of Travel” is a badge of honour that should be given to any couple who has survived (1) travelling together and (2) each other. So, for the brave of heart, here are some (survival) tips on travelling as a couple.
For The Currently Dating
When most people advise you not to go on a trip with the person you’re currently dating, that’s pretty much a reason for you to do it.
As an article on CNN cites, going on a trip while still dating tests your compatibility as a couple moving forward into the relationship. “Traveling can be seen as a mini-test to see how your relationship works when you are together 24-7 and dealing with unpredictable circumstances.”
Pros: Travelling early on as a couple makes you grow together as a couple. Even the misadventures in a trip can later on become special memories for dating couples later on in their relationship.
Cons: It can lead to a breakup. Travel can be stressful and travel can bring out the worst in people. If you’re still in the early stages of your relationship, you still may not know how to deal with your partner’s response to stress on the road.
For The Married With Kids
If you want to save some money of couple’s therapy, go on a trip. This is because travelling together creates opportunities for long conversations – something that’s very hard to come by for married people, especially those with children.
Conversations during these long plane rides or long drives can help you focus once again on each other. And after the trip, the conversation never stops as you’ve made new memories as a couple which you can talk about.
And, for married people with kids, you shouldn’t feel guilty travelling without them. In fact, according to clinical psychologist, Dr. Paula Bloom if going on a holiday can bring you together as a couple, then its’ probably one of the best things you can do for them.
“One of the best things you can do for your children is have a strong marriage. The marital relationship is like the foundation of a house. The firmer it is the more stable the structure being built. In this case, the structure is your family. The happier you are as a couple the healthier your kids can be,” she explains.
Pros: Travelling together can make you rediscover yourselves as a couple but more importantly as people. Having the time to be by yourselves, without worrying about anything else, can make you reconnect as a couple.
Cons: If you’re constantly checking up on the kids or checking your work email, you won’t be able to enjoy the company of your partner. Don’t get distracted. Focus on the moment and who you’re sharing it with.
For the Newly Empty Nest
Blogger and real life couple, David and Veronica from The GypsyNester has got it down pat when they summed up their travels as a couple in one word – Discovery.
Most couple who find themselves as empty nesters, are confronted with the reality that now they really have some free time on their hands. Unfortunately, for most couples who’ve been so busy taking care of everybody and everything else, they have no idea what to do with their free time.
But take it from Veronica, all you have to do is start. “I’m now more afraid to stop than I was to start out in the first place.”
Pros: You can make up for lost time when you were taking care of the household, the kids, and your job.
Cons: Couples can be so used to being at home that they’ll find it hard to leave. The challenge for empty nesters is to take that first step.